When you are married to someone you get to really know that person. You know their likes, their dislikes, you often even start to know what they are thinking.
So when they don't know... well I think we as women are often guilty of getting upset because our men don't just know what we are thinking. I mean come on, isn't mind-reading capabilities part of their job description?
I pride myself in knowing what Eric is thinking; often figuring it out before even he does.
Except for the towel.
When we got married we got towels like some people get toasters. A few from this set here, a few from a different set. Why we didn't take them back and get all matching towels I still don't know 12 years later. Some of the towels have gone and new ones have been purchased but still no complete set.
We have three light blue towels, these towels are soft but a little on the smaller size- my husband, well at 6'8" he is way on the bigger size. As I would do laundry and get a towel ready for his next shower I always took extra care to make sure he never got these towels. Since he was so big I made sure to give him the extra tall dark blue fuzzy ones. It was a little thing but something so sweet and considerate of me.
One night as he was about to get in the shower he put his old towel in the laundry and got a towel out of the cupboard.
"Yes, the light blue one!" he said while pulling it out. "I love these towels!"
"What?!?" I said mouth dropping.
"Yes these ones are my favorite." he said in all seriousness.
"I thought you wouldn't want those ones since they are smaller. I always tried to make sure you never had those ones!"
We had a good laugh about it and both learned a lesson that night.
Now this towel obviously didn't actually come close to ending our marriage; but those little things that we just assume the other should know or the other should be doing, if we let them could build up and fester.
So even if you posses awesome mind-reading abilities, you still need to talk, you still need to communicate. You should never assume things, as we all know what they say about assuming things.
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| The Blue Towel it turns out he loves |
I have learned not to assume things and so has the hubby (sometimes) I agree, communication is very important.
ReplyDeleteYes it really is-- obviously this wasn't a big deal but it was funny how I always thought I was doing something nice and it turned out just the opposite.
DeleteThat's so funny because I save the bigger towels for my husband too.... assuming that he likes those because they're bigger. Honestly, I don't know that it really matters as long as he has one and it's not a hand towel!
ReplyDeleteLol! Yes and it never bothered him enough to say anything, but funny that I just never realized it.
DeleteThat is really funny!! We have sets of towels, so that wouldn't happen. We did get one "off" towel as a wedding gift though. So bizarre. I'm not sure how the people who bought it didn't realize it was different. And of course, we never returned it either!
ReplyDeleteYea I can't remember if we even registered for towels or if people just got a lot for us. We actually needed a toaster and it was the very last present we opened.
DeleteWe have some beautiful, thick and fluffy towels. Except there is one problem...they're not the least bit absorbent. All they do is push the water around on your skin. It was fun to read a post about an ordinary, everyday thing like towels!
ReplyDeleteYes sometimes the fluffy ones while soft really aren't that great
DeleteI couldn't help but chuckle at this, and that is so sweet of you to have a towel ready for him. John and I are always fighting over the good towels ;D ha ha!
ReplyDeleteIt would also often be he would be in the shower and realize he didn't have one and I would get one for him- making sure to not give him the light blue ones :)
DeleteThat's so funny Em. We really need new towels. I make Todd pick them out though, that way he'll like them for sure and I don't really care. Probably why we need towels so bad, when will Todd go towel shopping? lol.
ReplyDeleteWell if the need gets bad enough he will make go again :)
DeleteClearly I don't know enough about my husband - I'd never be able to tell you what towel he likes best! :o)
ReplyDeleteWe've still got our wedding gift towels, too! We started with nine towels and now we are down to three. So if I don't do the washing in time, we end up using beach towels as replacements! ;o)
I have been known to use a beach towel after my shower a time or two :)
DeleteTrue. Sometimes we can get some comfortable in knowing each other that we stop talking as much as we should. It's easy to fall into. You're right, the towel is a little thing but it takes a small thing to make us aware so that it never becomes a big thing. :)
ReplyDeleteExactly! It really was a little thing but it just goes to show the need to always talk with each other
DeleteI love this story, I think that it's great to discover things about each other even years into a marriage. Last week I discovered my husband LOVES orange jello....11 years in!
ReplyDeleteLol! It is funny and crazy to make new discoveries like that. I wonder if my husband likes orange jello? :)
DeleteThat is so true!
ReplyDeleteI learn things all the time (still) that I didn't know about Keith. Like he hates when I leave a pot to soak in the sink. And his OCD when we leave on vacation still makes me laugh!
Yes, and it is good to learn new things and to keep learning new things as it keeps the excitement and the the desire to keep talking and being with the person alive.
DeleteVery true. This post brought a smile to my face.
ReplyDeleteOur towels are all the same. From Kohls. Just in different colors.
I really should just go buy all new towels-- well I would have to keep the light blue ones though :)
DeleteI love this post because a towel *could* actually end someone's marriage. That's how it starts, right? Or ends I should say. I am glad you have a sense of humor about these things. It goes a long way! And you are so right about making assumptions. So, so right.
ReplyDeletecommunication is key!!
ReplyDeleteThat's too funny!
ReplyDeleteHa, too funny! I think we have those towels, btw, but in a different color!
ReplyDeleteThat's funny :)... your new comments doesn't like me.
ReplyDeleteSeems to be working now for you :) It is a change, I like how much easier it is for replying though, as I can reply on my blog and then you will still be emailed and notified
ReplyDeleteHaha! Things like that happen all the time here, as well. Funny how easy it is to assume you are doing the thing you would expect them to like, but really it is not even close. Communication absolutely does play a huge factor!
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